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As any home business owner knows, working at home can be both a curse and a blessing. Today, since it is motivation Monday, I’ve chosen to focus on the latter. This morning I asked myself: How has working from your bedroom been a blessing in the past year or two? I almost shocked myself, as I came up with more than five answers in under two minutes. It wasn’t difficult to make a list at all! However, the blessing that I’ve chosen to spotlight today is my long-distance relationship.
In this age of technology, we’ve probably all had a love affair of some form with someone that we’ve never got to meet, or are just waiting for their plane to arrive. Many of us find ourselves in long-distance relationships. Whether these relationships span the small distance of a couple of states, or the longer distance of half-way-across-the-world, love knows no boundaries. As you might imagine, long-distance relationships are hard…like, really hard. In fact, they are so difficult that some people believe they are actually impossible to maintain long-term. If you were to step outside today and announce that you’ve just entered a long-distance relationship, you’d most likely hear at least one person say “It isn’t going to last!”.
Luckily enough for all of you long distance love birds out there, love can survive distance, and I’m living proof of that. “Love makes the heart grow fonder”, is a phrase that I firmly believe in, as I live each day happily in my own L.D.R. of nearly 6 months. Though it isn’t always sunshine and daisies, as it never will be, I can truthfully say that both my partner and I are happy, and looking forward to our first face-to-face visit this summer! The biggest issue we’ve faced together so far is scheduling. Thankfully (this is where work comes into play) I have a job that I can mend and mold to make time for him.
Working from home gives me the flexibility that my partner lacks. While he has to work a 9-5 shift, or a 12-8 shift, or a 6-2 shift, I can work any hour of the day that is convenient for the both of us. For the sake of both our nerves, we make a point to communicate every single day, with absolutely no exceptions. I could share with you our secret of how to avoid running out of things to talk about, but that’s a different blog post entirely. Whether he wants to ring me up at midnight to give me his “Goodnight Darling, I love You”, kissy faces, or video chat me as soon as he wakes up so I can be the first thing he sees, I can always be available.
Another positive aspect of working from home is the fact that I can mix work and hoe without much consequence, as long as I stay organized. This has been a huge plus in my long-distance relationship. I work solely online, so I’m not calling or meeting up with clients. I communicate through social media, instant messaging and email. This way, my man can actually see some of my work in progress! I have written rough drafts for speech, designed posters, and edited photos all while on the phone with him. Granted, I have to double-check y work for any oopsie-I-know-better mistakes I might have made while I was laughing at his latest joke, but any good freelancer or solopreneur will double-check themselves regardless of the distractions in the room. The freedom to let him be a part of my work is priceless. It’s not a matter of him needing to “check up on me”, but a matter of involving him in my day-to-day activities. If I can ask him “does this look better, or that?”, without a supervisor breathing down my neck and getting hostile because I’ on my mobile, he can feel more connected to me by feeling like he has contributed to my day.
Yes, it’s true what they all say: Long distance isn’t easy by any means. I’ve wanted to pull my hair out more than once over some simple miscommunications, and it hasn’t even been a full year yet, but when you love someone, you’re willing to give up a bit of your sanity to be with them…even if it is completely virtual. Communication is more important than ever when that’s all you have of each other, and working from home has opened my lines of communication in ways I would have never imagined. It has also improved my communication skills…yes, it takes skills to deal with clients day in and day out while remaining calm, cool, and collected. So, I feel like becoming a freelance writer has not only boosted my career, but saved my relationship. If I were trying to match up a 9-5 schedule with my partner’s hectic schedule, there’d be no hope for us.
Working from home has been a real blessing for me. If you’re in a long-distance relationship, you’re a single parent looking to stay home with your child, or a parent looking to become a homemaker…or any other individual that has decided you’d like to try your hand at the work-from-home game, I’ve got some articles that should help you get started. You never know, hitting the laptop instead of the timeclock every morning might save your relationship, your marriage, or even your sanity!