The Boss Babe Blog
Build your career without sacrificing your life.
I once had a close friend of mine ask me “What made you want to become a writer?”. Their reasoning for asking this question seemed pretty simple: “No child grows up wanting to write resumes and business articles. Little girls don’t go to career day excited about blogging. Professional writing couldn’t have been your original dream, so what are you giving up?”. My simple answer was “I’m not giving up anything”. My complex answer was one that left them in awe, and one that I believe all my readers could use for inspiration and motivation on this dreary rainy, Monday morning.
When I was a child, I jumped back and forth between dreams, constantly. One year, I told my class I wanted to be a teacher. The next year, I told the same children that I wanted to be a veterinarian. Later on, I wanted to be a country singer. At one point, I wanted to be a chef. At another point in time I aspired to be an author. During my more “practical” years, I was dead-set on going to school to be a graphic designer. Recently, I even wanted to pack up and move to Ireland. (You can read more about that here.) Often, people would ask me what had happened to my previous dreams and aspirations when I would tell them of my change of pace. At the time, I’d simply answer “Oh, I changed my mind”. Now, I see that I never really was honest with myself to begin with. I hadn’t “changed” my mind…I simply hadn’t figured out my mind, yet.
To avoid telling you my life story (why waste such a grand opportunity on a blog post, when I may choose to write a book in the future?), I’ll just say that I found my true aspiration through the writing I was doing just to make a few dollars. I eventually realized that I had never wanted to slave away in a kitchen every single day, I had only wanted to bring smiles to the faces of everyone that ate at my restaurant. I had never wanted to be on stage, in the spotlight, memorizing verses of songs that I may or may not have written, and signing autographs for fans while I’m just trying to do my grocery shopping, I had just wanted to be a positive influence in the lives of people around the world. I never wanted to sit in a classroom and teach the same material to different children of the same age, year after year. I wanted to inspire people, and help them grow in knowledge, because I firmly believe that knowledge is power. I never wanted to give shots to cute little kittens or baths to adorable puppies…I just wanted to care and nurture someone or something. I wanted to feel like I’m a help to the community.
So, no…blogging, social media marketing, copywriting, and product testing weren’t my original dreams, but I’m not giving up anything by pursuing them. They are simply avenues that I’m using to chase my dreams, while supporting myself financially at the same time. I don’t have a traditional career, but I never really wanted a traditional career. I’m far too flamboyant to follow the crowd with their Harvard degrees and corporate meetings. I’d rather pursue a liberal arts degree at a small-town university, prove everyone wrong in the relationship that no one believed would last, raise a few beautiful, intelligent, and compassionate children to accept and love the world and all of its people, and travel the continents, not looking for happiness, but living in happiness and embracing every aspect of every unique culture that has grown and developed on the face of our planet. That’s the dream I’ve always had…I just didn’t know it at the time. Now I do, and I aspire to write novels, and e-courses, social media market until my fingers can’t type any further, and of course, blog about my experiences and my travels for all of my readers to enjoy, while I help each and every one of you grow and aspire to do the same type of things.
There’s no doubt that each of us will leave a mark on the world we live in, even if it’s a tiny one. We’re the dreamers, the believers, the artists, the outcasts, the introverts, the thinkers, the doers, the people that Steve Jobs spoke about in his speeches…we’re the people that are going to change the world, because we think differently than the rest and we refuse to conform to the standards of choosing a career and slaving away at it until you die. We’re contributing to society, while enjoying ourselves, and I hope that once we’re gone, they’ll be able to say we were living in the future, before the future was even acceptable. They’ll call us unstable, they’ll say we’re in over our head, or that we need to get our heads out of the clouds. They’ll tell us that a liberal arts degree won’t o anything, and they’ll tell us we have no influence on the condition of the world in which we live, but they’re wrong. If you feel like you’re doing something right for you, then you probably are. The next generation is learning by example. So, be a happy example. Be a good example. Be a loving example. Be a compassionate example. Be a creative example. Be an innovative example. Be the example that the world needs, however you feel in your heart that you need to do so. Maybe, your calling will be to teach, or cook, or design, or care for people…mine isn’t, and that’s okay. We should all share a similar dream regardless of what path we take to achieve it.