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21st Century feminism gets a bad rap, these days. Usually, people think of it as naked women walking down the street with short rants written in paint all over their bodies. I’m not going to try to say that doesn’t happen, because yes, it certainly does. I’m also not going to attempt to defend it, because let’s admit it, once you paint your body up and go streaking, you’re not protesting…you’re playing. I’ll even admit that third-wave feminism can get as ridiculously extreme as allowing young girls, and I’m talking princess-dress age children, not even pre-teens, to use profane language on camera to make a point. (I’m not upset because girls cussed. Hell, I cuss too. It’s the age group presented that was disturbing. By the way, if you haven’t seen the video, you can find it below.) Now that you see I’m not trying to promote some God-forsaken, social-justice-warrior, special-snowflake agenda designed to corrupt the mind of your children, and I’m seriously in favor of good-old-fashioned equality, let me tell you why we STILL need feminism, even in 2017.
Because women shouldn’t have to hide their natural functions.
At a family dinner once, my grandmother explicitly said “When you go to the bathroom, make sure to wrap a plastic bag around your used Kotex and carry it to the big trash can in the garage or the kitchen. I don’t want any of the men in the house seeing tampons, pads, or their wrappers in the trash and knowing there’s a woman in the house on her period. Okay, Sweetie? That just wouldn’t be proper.”. At that same family dinner, there were men sitting around the table letting out belches that sounded like they were coming from a Goliath, and one guy left a horrible stench in the bathroom behind him. They were excused, because these behaviors were “all-natural”, and they “couldn’t help it”. Periods are all-natural too. Why are they more taboo than a burp? Women shouldn’t be taught to be ashamed of a natural bodily process.
They shouldn’t be ashamed of any other part of their body, either.
I’m not saying a woman should walk around completely naked, or covered in nothing but paint. Unless of-course, you’re in an area that specifically permits that, like a specific festival, a nudist beach, or the comfort of your own home. What I am saying is showing a bra strap is not a sin. Neither is picking out a bra from a sales rack in the middle of an isle where there is the occasional man walking past. Yes, I’ve been called “classless” for doing exactly that. My response? “I’m sorry that bras are $25 a piece or more if you go to a specialty store, and I’m a full-time student that can’t afford such luxuries. If there are bras on sale for $3 apiece, you better know that I’m going to take advantage of that deal. I don’t care who is looking.” Men know women wear bras. What’s the shame in picking one out while they’re walking past? No one stopped to stare.
Because women’s hygiene products aren’t a luxury. (No, they aren’t comparable to condoms, either.)
The basic human needs are food, water, shelter, sex, sleep, and if you’re a woman…tampons/pads/menstrual cups. You can’t argue that these items are luxuries, simply because there are women in other countries making due without them. There are women in other countries making due without clean water too, but that never seems to come up in the luxury tax argument, although it certainly should. Often, I’ve seen tampons compared to condoms…but tampons don’t bring any sort of pleasure? Tampons are a necessity for men and women. Men don’t want to sit on bloody subway seats and park benches. Women don’t want to stain everything their bottom half touches. Tampons/Pads/Menstrual Cups (at least the cheap versions) should be counted as a necessity…because that’s exactly what they are.
Because women want to be mechanics and engineers, too. (With the SAME paycheck for the same work, mind you.)
“You can be anything you want to be when you grow up”. We’ve all heard it. Have we all lived lit, though? The simple answer is…not really. As a child, I was asked about my future ambitions many, many times. Coincidently, I provided many, many different answers over the span of my 8 years in the public-school system. I wanted to be a teacher, then a personal trainer, maybe a librarian, or even an author. I wanted to be a nurse, no, a doctor, possibly a veterinarian, even a horse trainer. I wanted to be an actress, or a graphic designer, a chef, and an artist. Although I loved to build and create, I never aspired to be an engineer. I loved the smell of a garage, and I could name a car by the sound of its engine…but I never bothered mentioning becoming a mechanic. I was the best basketball player in my school, but I gave up my dream of going pro. Occasionally, I wondered what it would be like to start my own business…but all the entrepreneurs I saw were powerful men, and I was far from being a man. At one point I dreamed of being President of the United States, those dreams were beaten down in the last election, however. Children look up to adults. Little girls look up to strong women figures. We need more strong women in male-dominated industries.
Because a strong body isn’t always a masculine body.
“I need to slap the society out of you. Muscles are meant to be strong.”. That’s a quote from the video that I’ve included, below. Women are meant to have strong bodies, just like men. If that means rippled and defined muscles, so be it. If that includes having to wiggle your way into jeans, and not being able to wear all the top brands that the models wear, then oh well. Masculinity is more than muscle mass, and muscle mass is not a factor in femininity. Yet, you still see articles in Women’s magazines focused on “How to lose weight without looking bulky!” Maybe women should STOP worrying about the size of their triceps compared to the size of their breasts, and just focus on something more important…like the bulkiness of their I.Q., or their level of daily activity. If a man won’t love you because you can flex better than he can, then there was never really any “love” to begin with. I hate to break it to you, but that’s just the facts.
Because sports aren’t exclusively for boys.
“I don’t think women should play basketball. It’s too hard on their bodies.” Yes, I’ve heard that comment from a close friend, before. A friend that knew I played basketball. So, I’ve got to ask…what would be more suiting? Swimming? Cheerleading? Tennis? Softball? Soccer? Sports are fun. Sports are for humans. Not especially for men, not especially for women, but for anyone willing and able to compete. My favorite sports are Basketball, football, tennis, track, horseback riding, swimming, dancing, baseball, bowling, kickball, and boxing. I love almost everything athletic. I don’t have to compete in women’s leagues to be comfortable. Throw me on a basketball court with a group of grown men, I won’t be intimidated. If I get injured, it’s all part of the game…it’s not because I’m a woman. Hunting, fishing, hiking, biking, racing…I’ve done it all. I’ve gotten sweaty, muddy, bloody, and loved every minute of it. Women aren’t too fragile to enjoy life. We deal with period cramps every month, and sometimes birth. We’re not “soft” like society tries to program us to be.
Oh, and we’re more than baby-making machines.
Some women don’t want children. Do I? Yes, I happen to want two or three, actually. Does that make me more of a woman than a female that never wants children? No. “Women who don’t have children have no purpose. They are useless to society.” Believe it or not, that’s another comment I’ve witnessed in person. That assumes that every woman struggling with pregnancy is defective and useless. By that logic, every man that doesn’t impregnate a woman is useless, as well…correct? Oh, yeah. Sorry, I forgot that only women are responsible for child-bearing, and men have no responsibility in it. In fact, they’re able to skip out on raising a child, just because they decided to talk a woman into a one-night-stand, and she’s left with the burden of being publicly and privately criticized by people that she once believed supported her. In reality, women DO contribute more to society than our womb. We held the nation up by our bare hands while the men were oversees blowing each other away in World War II. If a woman chooses not to have children, she’s actually doing the world a service. We’re greatly overpopulated as it is, and aside from that, we need more empowered female role models such as those to influence our children and teach them that we shouldn’t allow anyone to dictate what happens to our own bodies. We shouldn’t crack under the pressure of society, and we should keep confidence in ourselves, and stand by what we believe in, even when the rest of the world tries to bring us down.
Because your rights are something that has always been, and our rights are something we and our rights were something we had to work for.
You might see us as paranoid, but sometimes we legitimately worry that the second we turn our backs and stop worrying, they’ll disappear again. Kind of like happened to the Native Americans when the white men established boundaries, and then pushed them into reservations. We don’t want to go back to the days of coat-hanger abortions and glorification of rape within marriages. We don’t want to be seen as a mere tool or object. We want to be seen as human beings. We want to be treated with respect. More than anything else, we want men and women around the world to realize that while there are quite a few bad apples in the bunch, quite a few women still mooching off the opposite sex, and quite a few extremists still making feminism look like a movement to abolish all housewives (not true, you can be a housewife if you’d like, just don’t try to force your lifestyle on someone else or expect that behavior of someone else), we are not all feminazis. Some of us stand by the definition of the word “equality”. I’ll help you pay for the groceries, you help me cook the dinner. I’ll scratch your back, and you scratch mine. I’ll care for the baby one night, and you’ll care for it the next. I’ll ask you before buying that Gucci dress, and you ask me before buying that speedboat. I’ll hit the weights when you hit the weights. I’m going to study to be a doctor while you’re studying to be a lawyer. I’ll help our son straighten his favorite pink tie, and you can help our daughter pick out the camo wedding dress of her dreams. Equality.